The word gay refers to relationship where two people of the same sex who have agreed to live together in a marital union. Such people are also referred to as homosexuals. Gay unions or marriages have attracted a lot of controversies worldwide with a lot of people feeling very negatively about such unions more so when gay couples started pressing to be allowed to legally adopt children. When two people of same sex come together in a marital union the possibility of having children is ruled out because of the biological setbacks associated with such a marriage.
The option of adoption gives them the opportunity to raise up children within such a union and gay couples have been trying everything they can to utilise this opportunity (Glazer D. F. , Descher J). The issue of child adoption among gay couples is not a very new phenomenon as there are many who get into a union with one partner already having a child especially in the case of lesbians and so the other partner has to adopt that child as their own. Children have therefore been growing up in such relationships.
This fact has not stopped anti-gay activists from carrying out their campaigns to oppose child adoption for such couples. Some people have argued that the fight against child adoption by gays is mainly steered up by a discriminatory attitude that people have towards gays couples rather than concern for lives of children raised up in such unions. Others have however felt that gays also have stable relationships and they should not be denied the right to adopt and raise up children (Golombok Susan). Statistics in the USA indicate that there are very many children holed up in foster homes waiting for adoption.
From a number of about 100,000 thousand children in foster homes, only about 20,000 are lucky to be put up for adoption in one year. Furthermore, single people are allowed to adopt children. Perhaps gay couples should therefore be allowed to legally adopt such children to save them from the agony of living in foster homes or moving from one foster home to another which is very unhealthy for their development. Such children will have been given a chance to grow up in a stable home (www. childwelfare. gov/pubs/f_gay/f_gayb. cfm – 39k). Children in heterosexual relationships are not exempted from such problems as child abuse.
Worse still, there are such couples who are living under very poor financial conditions and therefore having a lot of difficulties raising children leading to case of child neglect. If a child can be adopted by a gay couple who are able to financially provide for them, then such a child will live a more comfortable life than their counterpart in a heterosexual relationship. Pro-gay activists and scholars have argued that there is no evidence that children from gay relationships will end up gay themselves as is normally portrayed in anti-gay campaigns.
There is also no evidence of psychological distress as a result of living within such a set up. Impairment of psychological functioning in children is normally determined by the environment they grow up in and more so if they are experiencing some kind of distress when growing up. This can happen in any set up for example where children are subjected to child abuse. With this consideration then, gay couples should be allowed to adopt children if they can be able to provide a suitable environment for the children to grow up in.
Children need a kind environment that is characterised by an atmosphere of love and where they are nurtured. Gay couples are capable of providing such environment (Glazer Deborah F. , Drescher Jack). Some states in the US allow adoption of children for gay couples while others don’t. This is an indication that gay couples are also capable of raising up healthy children. A union whether heterosexual or homosexual will have its ups and downs and the way those involved decide to co-exist determines the kind of environment children will grow up in.
On this ground therefore gays should be given the chance to enjoy the same rights as heterosexuals because the opposite sex marriages are not unique when it comes to marital problems and break ups. However, dating back into history, children have always been brought up in a heterosexual union and the family has since been the most fundamental unit for the existence of any society. Legalising gay marriage and gay child adoption poses great threat to the family as the basic foundation of society. This is because many people may result to this mode of relationship simply because they don’t wish to naturally have children.
If everyone turns gay, there will be in the long run no children to adopt and this threatens any society with extinction. There’s clear indication that the gay community is a type of society that has no stability as they still have to rely on the heterosexual unions to be able to raise up children. Naturally, children have been and should be brought up under a father and mother type of environment. By allowing gay couples to adopt children, a lot of children in society will not have the opportunity of experiencing the love of either a father or mother.
Such children suffer from low self esteem as they are often victims of bullying and teasing by other children either in school or in society. They are also subjected to a lot of confusion in regard to the normal family set up as children will live wondering why they have two mothers or two fathers. Sex identity becomes an issue that disturbs most of these children (Golombok Susan). The lives of young children are moulded by the kind of relationships that they are able to develop in their young age.
A child brought up in a gay union will not have a clear picture of what constitutes a normal relationship and they have a weakness in developing relationships themselves. This subjects such children to a lot of psychological torture and such children any end up being gay themselves because that is what they have grown up with (Golombok Susan). Children in foster homes waiting for adoption will normally have preconceived ideas of the kind of homes they wish to grow up in because of what they have learnt from society to be the right kind of family.
If such children then end up in gay unions, they are bound to suffer a lot of distress and this will affect their development. They may not get any happier than they were in foster homes (Golombok Susan). Nature dictates a heterosexual kind of union. Animals have been able to follow this law of nature and since we do not find gay relationships among animals, it’s not logical for any human being to try and legalise what nature does not permit. This is because there have always been set backs associated with any move that goes against the course of nature.
We are superior as compared to animals and this is not an issue that should be so hard to resolve. Gay communities have been characterised by the tendency to abuse drugs. This means that children raised up in such unions may also end up abusing drugs themselves a factor that brings a lot of setbacks in the campaigns against drug abuse. Conclusion The issue of gay child adoption therefore has its own setbacks as a result of several factors put together that do not favour such an arrangement giving the anti-gay adoption campaign more weight than the pro-gay adoption campaign.
Because of society’s dependence on heterosexual unions for its existence, gay relationships have not been recognised by society. As a result, gay couples do not have any clear guideline to the formation of a family and how it is held together. Gay couples mainly get together for the simple reason of companionship any little misshape in the relationship may lead to divorce or separation as they do not have much to protect in the relationship. This will subject the children in such a relationship to more psychological torture.
The family remains the most basic unit in society and every child should be given the opportunity to grow up in a normal family.
Child Welfare Information Gateway Gay and Lesbian Adoptive Parents: Resources for Professionals and Parents Published: 2000, Updated:Dcember10, 2007 www. childwelfare. gov/pubs/f_gay/f_gayb. cfm – 39k – Reviewed 17 April 2008 Glazer Deborah F. , Drescher Jack Gay and Lesbian Parenting Haworth Press, Published 2001 Golombok Susan Parenting: what really counts? Routledge Published 2000