Animals in the wild use corporal punishment to get their young’s attention. For years parents have done the same thing. There are times when a corporal move is just needed. This isn’t to advocate for abuses but even in an Otago University study showed that the use of physical discipline was the most effective way to discipline children with ADHD. (Xavier Lothian-Should parents be able to use reasonable force when disciplining their children? ) If we are not allowed even a minimum of corporal punishment, this will not stop child abuse.
Done in a light and moderated way is legal in most states and research should be done. At all costs though, a parent needs to do their best to discipline their child without any form of physical actions. In using a slap or a spank, this should be dealt with as a last resort only option. (How to Have a Better-Behaved Child From Birth to Age Ten-1995 ). There is also an option of physical restraint. A guardian had custody of her neice and her neice was angry but at her biological mom who was not present.
The child felt abandoned by the mother and was acting out and the guardian, initially against the will of the child held the child in her lap and rocked her and would not let her go. Apparently the child kept screaming to be let go but the guardian after about 10 minutes was able to get the child calm and even after the child was calmer the guardian continued a rocking motion. This in itself became a defining moment of their relationship and the child realized that she was safe and felt that someone did care for her.
(Cara Tapken) Now this may not seem like discipline but when you have a screaming child who is angry, this actually can become a very positive way of not only disciplining but letting the child know that they are still loved. The book Positive Discipline also promotes this action as positive way of dealing with a child though this only works in certain cases. (Positive Discipline-2006)
A simple smack is a universal sign of discipline and in countries and states, according to the study done by the New Zealand OECD (Xavier Lothian-Should parents be able to use reasonable force when disciplining their children? ) they have the lowest reported child abuse whereas those places who do not allow a reasonable physical moment have reportedly been higher in child abuse rates. So it is plain to see that one, we need to know our laws in regards to how to discipline a child and two, engage in creative ways such as the guardian did. All parents can use a parenting class or two and it is guaranteed that they will obtain new knowledge and different ideas of how to deal with an unruly child.
When all else fails, seek counseling for both the child and the parent(s) or even siblings as a family session as there may be a much deeper and under lying cause that talking in general terms or a smack will not get to.
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