Con? ict is no doubt a part of human nature and it is through the Interpersonal relationships we share with others that a hierarchical aspect has the ability to be created. This is where one person is deemed to naturally have more power than the other, which can either make us or break us. For most of us who start our ? rst somewhat romantic relationship we have an expectation in our minds that ? lm, television and the media have painted for us. Although, what we see portrayed on a screen is a far cry from reality.
As the months have ? own I have been stuck connected to a person who holds this power to move in and out of my life, as they can’t seem to decide whether or not they want me as a part of their life. It hurts everyday, and even though it hurts me I stupidly allow myself to be mentally crippled by someone who has an incredible desire for power, who will spark con? ict with those who stand in the way of their ambitions, with the fear of being seen as powerless. He has now started university and has vanished from my everyday school life, however even though we are physically apart I feel as though I am a puppet and he is the puppet master controlling my every move.
I ? nd it so unbelievably di$cult to understand how one person can hold so much in? uence over one’s life. Once he ?nished school last year with his 90. 00 Atar score i thought my problems were over, clearly I was wrong. In some ways I feel that his main purpose is to ensure that I su)er from some form of inner con? ict. The reality is he is the powerful and I am the powerless, and not doing anything to change where I stand is my biggest downfall. Disharmony within oneself, can make us feel as though we have in? icted this unhappiness upon ourselves, however more often than not this inner con?ict can be caused by those who feel they hold more power and superiority over us.
Although it may seem, at times, easier to suppress our feelings and simply follow the lead of those in power, in fear the con? ict we encounter could suddenly become violent, because of the other parties need for dominance. There are, however, times where we must make a decision, and that is, whether to continue to feel oppressed and live in the darkness of our inner demons or attempt to make a positive change and stand up to venomous individuals who stand in the way of our happiness and gain power .
It is no doubt going to be di$cult, as our main goal is to discover the capability to exhibit power without resorting to violence. One hurdle could possibly be that we may want to give up before we even embark on this journey of empowerment, with the feeling it may be easier to continue to be oppressed due to fear of the repercussions. However, if your intentions to combat your inner con? ict are pure, you will ? nd the strength to ? ght against those who villainously instigate con? ict in your life. Daniel Rooke, the Protagonist in the historical novel, The Lieutenant, written by Kate Grenville experiences his own inner con?
Шct with being seen as powerless, as he forms close bonds with the Aboriginal people that inhabit the settlement, who ask for his assistance when they they have been beaten. Rooke feels obliged to support his new friends, however “there was a heavy place inside him” which was preventing him from doing so because of being afraid of being punished by his superiors. As time passed tensions between the Aboriginal people and the settlers increased, which forced Rooke to chose between two worlds he feels loyal to.
Rooke then ? nally realized he needed to stand up for himself and his beliefs regardless of the hierarchy instilled, as he expresses his disagreement to the Governor with the evil brewing in Australia. Rooke is a ? ctional character we can look onto as inspiration, this is because of the amount of strength and courage it had taken him to overcome his fears and exhibit power to his superiors whose purpose was to instigate con? ict. Those with power are continually scrutinised for their actions and decisions as their views and values may not align with people of less power. In recent events in Prime Minister Tony Abbott has dismissed the idea of a referendum on same sex-marriage in Australia, after Ireland, voted in favour of amending the country’s constitution on the issue.
Mr Abbott has stated that, “questions of marriage are the preserve of the Commonwealth Parliament”. “Referendums are held in this country where there’s a proposal to change the constitution”. “I don’t think anyone is suggesting the constitution needs to be changed. ” This makes the public question the Prime Minister’s logic and reasoning due to most having the knowledge that Abbott’s sister, Christine Forster, is in fact, gay. His decision has made many Australians left unimpressed with his actions.
Most would say the majority of the Australian public would gladly support gay marriage, it almost feels as though Mr Abbott has purposely denied the proposal for change, to further emphasise his authority and the fact that the general public’s cries are not of his concern, therefore he is the instigator of con? ict as he has once again divided a nation. By standing against those who spark con? ict, I hope everyone ? nds the strength and courage to overthrow those in power who stand in the way of pure happiness, and emerge with a sense of triumph and accomplishment.