Parenting within the law can become a challenge where it should be. The law in and of itself has become more an dmore strict with regards as to how to correctly parent a child so as to not over step bounds that border on the line of abuses whether these become verbal, mental or physical. Each circumstance is different thus needing different approaches. Some kids are so unruly it is almost impossible to parent with over stepping legal lines. Also these legal lines are not only sometime vague but are not published well so that parents know what the law entails.
Each state is varied on their law, some states may be ok with a hand slap or a single slap on the butt as long as it doesn’t leave marks. Other states may allow a light slap on the face but in reality when these are done a child, if they complain to the right person, meaning a school teacher, an officer or any other mandated reorter of abuses, these simple movements can land a parent in hot water. Statutory law in Vermont allows no corporal punishment of children whatsoever (13 V. S. A. Subchapter 6 (Misdemeanors and Felonies)).
To do so automatically incites an officer to charge a parent with domestic violence. This law has been in effect for sometime but in 2000 the Supreme Court finally made a ruling that a parent can use corporal punishment as long as it is corrective in nature and not because of anger. (Douglas G. Kallen -The Law of Corporal Punishment in Vermont-State v. Martin, 170 Vt. 614, 751 A. 2d 769) Though even with this ruling the definition and defining line between what the law considers anger and correction has yet to be made.
There is a ton of advices of parenting and Ruth Peters, Phd (Ruth Peters, Phd The Top Ten Laws of Parenting) has 25 laws in which to parent your child. Some of these are that we are the shut up and listen, lay down the law, be polite and praise. While these do work to some extent, they don’t always work as sometimes one needs to get their childs attention and if the child is throwing a tantrum then trying to discuss it seems moot. There are several different types of parenting classes as well that one could take in which to gain tools and different perspectives on how to parent your child without any form of violence.
In the end though, sometimes ignoring a child after putting them in their room or a slap on the hand may be the way to go. A different book to read about child rearing within the law even though unrelated to the law would be The Continuum Concept about a woman who travels to South America and while there, the experiences and lessons learned about another cultures ability to raise children in a positive way without violence or anger and by doing this through the way of this culture she realized and lost the western misconceptions of discipline.
To be on the safe side, all officers carry a little book that has statues in which they form their citations from and it is from this book that one can garner valuable legal knowledge as to what the laws are in relation to discipling your child. You can always go to an officer and have him cite you these or research your lcal statutes and do the same thing. Even in doing this though, some child welfare advocates may try and push the issue where there may not seem to be an issue.